“You have done nothing wrong little bird, but our past is not your future. Go out into the world and make something of yourself.  Find the man you love and make a life together and be happy. If not, you will find yourself a nursemaid to those who cannot have their own way and seek to control you, to keep you at their side, in the name of love. I have said enough now, but when you do leave, and leave you must little bird, know that you are loved more than you can ever know.”